Today’s Dear Abby nicely complements yesterday’s snooty deplorer:
DEAR ABBY: I am happily married to the most wonderful woman in the world. I feel blessed to have her in my life and to be a part of hers.
I am not an elitist; I like to think I am a humble person. But I do believe in correct grammar, proper pronunciation and the eloquent employment of words in conversation. My wife did not have the benefit of an upbringing in which these were practiced. She comes from the “ain’t got no” school of speaking.
I can accept this at home, but in business as a corporate executive, I am embarrassed by her low verbal skills.
I would never hurt or shame my wife by correcting her in front of anyone. The obvious answer is to bring it up in private. I did that, but she is not inclined to improve her word skills. She has mentioned a friend who tried to help her in this endeavor, but it went nowhere. I wish I could do something. Any ideas on how I can help? — WORDSMITH IN ILLINOIS
Abby (Jeanne Phillips) is nicer than I would be about it, but she has the right idea:
You say you have a happy marriage and your wife is the most wonderful woman in the world. Nobody has everything. Love her for who she is and stop worrying about how others perceive her.
Again, I am mystified that people care so much about this stuff that this fellow, who thinks his wife is the most wonderful woman in the world, nevertheless gives her grief because her English doesn’t meet his high standards. Personal to WORDSMITH: yes, you are an elitist. Get over it.